I’m currently writing about poems I’ve been writing during this time, a series of prompts called “Pieces in the Pause” by Indelible Ink Writers. To see more, see this post.
This one has a different feel to it than others I have written lately. It’s one with as many meanings behind it as one can imagine, and that’s the beauty of poetry. It can mean one thing to me, and something completely different to every person who reads it. The more vulnerable my words feel to me, the more relatable they seem to be to others.
As much as I love explaining the thoughts behind my words, I’m going to let you give it your own meaning and only touch on the last line:
We weren’t made to be alone.
We weren’t. God knows we need companionship. Adam realized he was missing something – or someone – and God gave him a companion (Genesis 2:20, 18).
During this time when some of us are more alone than others, I’m sure this is felt more deeply than ever before. We can usually ignore the ache by being in crowds or spending time with friends, but that’s not allowed right now and people are hurting.
I have seen many people saying this time is making them realize how much there is in their life that they have suppressed, ignored, glazed over…but now it’s coming to light and there is no way to push it down anymore. The distractions we are used to are no more.
We need people, but we also tend to use people in ways God didn’t intend. We step on others or cleverly use someone to get what we want. We tell of our pains, but forget to listen when the ones we unload on try to let their load off on us. We use people for pleasure, to make ourselves feel better, to distract us from the hurt within, but what good does it do us or them? It just leaves us all feeling lonely, rejected, and not good enough, as we find we have burned another bridge and are alone again.
This wasn’t what God intended our relationships to look like. Our relationships are to look like love, first and foremost. Jesus said the greatest commandments are to love (Matthew 22:37-39). Where is the love in the aforementioned statements? Perhaps there is a love of self – but that’s not a Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
We aren’t meant to be alone. We also aren’t meant to leave a cloud of ache in our wake. Our relationships with others should be so steeped in love that others feel the love of God through us. Perhaps this time could be used to focus our attention on learning how to love well so when we can be together again, we will no longer feel alone.
Some may argue that if we have Christ, that should be enough for us. I will argue back saying God knows our need for human relationships. He knows our need to gather together in fellowship; He made us to be relational. We are called to meet together to build up and encourage each other in love (1 Thessalonians 5:11; Hebrews 10:24-25). When we can find our identity in Christ and no longer rely on another person to carry our baggage, we can truly learn to have a relationship with another person. Then we will never be alone, whether we are in the middle of the woods or a crowd.
We weren’t made to be alone.