Book Review: The Peacemaker: Growing as an Enneagram 9 (60-Day Enneagram Devotional)

Book Review: The Peacemaker: Growing as an Enneagram 9 (60-Day Enneagram Devotional)

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Book reviews are interesting because it’s like, “Here, I read this book and I liked it because of something and think you’d like it because of something so go read it because I say so.”

I’m not usually a bossy person. But I have three books I’m on a launch team for right now, and so far, they have all been fantastic reads. I’m telling you this because TODAY (September 15, 2020) my new favorite devotional is available to purchase and use over and over again, and I am so excited.

There are actually three devotionals out today, but so far, I have only read one. Now, these devotionals are based on Enneagram types, so if you aren’t familiar with the Enneagram, you’re probably going to be a little confused. If you’re new to it, I encourage you to check out this link and this assessment to start to understand what I am talking about!

If you are familiar with it, the first three devotionals (all by Elisabeth Bennett) are for types 2, 4, and 9. Now, if you aren’t any of these types, please don’t stop reading! It is still helpful to learn about other types to better understand your friends or family. For instance, I am a type 9, so that is what this review is about, but my husband is a 2, so you better believe I bought the 2 book, too. I will possibly even read it before I give it to him, so I know how he sees the world in ways he may not even realize!

That was something I found fascinating as I read through this devotional. It knew me better than I knew myself, and it opened my eyes to how I see the world.

Maybe that sounds crazy, but look at it this way: if you live with a health problem that occurred so gradually you didn’t realize it wasn’t normal and then one day you took a medicine that made it all go away at once, you’d be in for a shock. I know, because that’s happened to me. (I didn’t realize it wasn’t normal to get dizzy when I stood up because it happened slowly and gradually; it was my normal.)

The same goes for how one sees the world. I thought everyone saw the world the way I did for the longest time. As I grew up, I couldn’t help but wonder how someone could speak up and say, “Can we stop the car? I need to use the bathroom.” I felt like if I needed to, that was my own problem, and I would just have to wait until we stopped again. Or, as talked about in the devotional, I didn’t think what I thought or had to say mattered because someone else could do it or say it better than I could. I sat on the sidelines, never wanting to step on someone else’s toes. As I grew up, I’ve realized that’s not totally true. While it is important to care about what others feel and think, what I think and feel matters just as much as what someone else does.

As an enneagram 9, my first instinct is to keep the peace at all costs. If peace is not maintained, there is a burning feeling in my stomach, and I want to run and hide.

People yelling at each other?

“See y’all later…”

Obvious tension in the room?

*knits furiously*

Someone says something negative and makes me feel like I’ve failed?

*hides in corner*

Too many emotions?

*scrolls through social media to numb*

Seriously, the thing I hate the most is not keeping the peace. But a peacekeeper is not what I am called to be. I am called to be a peacemaker, which sometimes requires sitting in uncomfortable things to work it out instead of glazing over them. Which is NOT easy to do.

Since reading this devotional, I have learned how speaking truth is a lot harder than I thought. I tend to go with the flow and “merge” with what the people around me want. Ask me what I want for dinner, and very rarely will you get an answer because I am more worried about voicing my opinion and offending someone than actually eating what I want.

Thankfully, Andrew is learning this and helps affirm me when I speak truth and say what I actually want. Or, what I don’t want, because sometimes it’s easier to know what I don’t want than what I do want.

Does any of this sound like you? Or maybe it sounds like someone you know. There are so many aspects to the Enneagram that I have yet to learn, but this devotional truly helped me understand myself more…and it does it Biblically. Basing each day off at least one Bible verse, you get to read what God’s Word says is true about you and how it applies to how you see the world. It’s broken up into ten-day segments, starting with talking about peacemaking, then about our sin of sloth, our gut feelings (since we’re part of the gut triad), merging, and the last two segments are about how we go to 6 in stress (and how it’s not all bad!) and to 3 in growth (which is also not bad!).

As part of the launch team, we SPED through the book, doing two days at a time. I think that kept me from being able to absorb it the way I should have, but it also kept me from “sloth” and avoiding it because it was calling me out.

It also includes a very helpful introduction to the Enneagram and to being a 9, so it’s great for people who are brand new to the Enneagram!
Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book and a poem I wrote about being a 9.

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